Female Gender Specific Toys

If you go to any high street shop now days, or even search on the internet for girls toys, you will inevitably be inundated with prams, babies, cookery items, beauty products and the like.

I have recently had a discussion on Facebook about girls toys and how they promote being 3 things; a mother, a house wife or a whore. Every time this “issue” gets mentioned, almost everyone literally jumps at the chance to call me a dick and tell me that I am wrong, but lets take a few minutes to have a look.

Lets look at the definition of a whore. To quote dictionary.com “a woman who engages in promiscuous sexual intercourse, usually for money; prostitute; harlot; strumpet”. Now we know the definition of a whore, lets think about what the modern day whore might wear. At a rough guess she would wear a very short skirt and a revealing top. If you really need a visual helper check the photo below.

Photo from http://www.inquisitr.com/25563/man-calls-a-prostitute-his-own-daughter-shows-up-dbp/

We have established above the definition of a whore and what a whore dresses like. If we now apply what we have learnt to a Mattel product, Bling Barbie, would you consider her to be promoting “whorishness” (not that I think that’s a real word, but lets pretend for now that it is!)? I certainly would, and I would deny my daughter, Chloe, any access to such a product, simply because of that reason.

Image from - http://www.amazon.com/gp/customer-media/product-gallery/B000A7S596/ref=cm_ciu_pdp_images_all

Lets look at another word; Housewife. Again to quote dictionary.com “a woman, typically a married woman, who keeps house, usually without having paid employment”. If we break apart the quote and explain it some more it will easier to understand the meaning of “housewife”.

“A married woman, who keeps house.” If you look at that sentence alone, it literally tells us that, first it must be a woman and secondly they tidy up, they clean up, they make the house nice and presentable for the rest of the family, be it a husband and or kids.

“Usually with out having paid employment.” This tells us that it is the general norm for a “housewife” to be at home, keeping the house, without any financial contribution to the household. O.K. fair enough, if the husband doesn’t mind it, then why not? Well there’s the problem, why would a woman want to give up their life and dedicate it to cleaning or making their house pleasant? Where is the satisfaction in that? Going out and getting a job is a much more satisfying thing to be doing. It also makes you a productive member of society who actually contributes towards it!

“So?”, I hear you ask, “What’s that got to do with toys?”. Again, take a look at my first paragraph. Girls are inundated with toys that represent cooking, cleaning and the like.

My original point is that girls toys are all about promoting those 3 things; mothering, a house wife or a whore. I’m not going to bother to go into “mothering” as dolls and mechanical babies really infuriate me and by this point you are probably thinking that I have been talking for quite a long time! Well you’re right.

I am sick and tired of living a society where girls toys promote being a mother, a housewife or a whore. Why isn’t there a telescope with a picture of a girl looking through it? Why isn’t there an RC car with a girl playing it? Why is the astronaut costume got a boy in it? Why cant there be a photo of a girl shooting a boy with a Nerf gun in the advertisement? I want to inspire my daughter to be more than a mother, more than a housewife and more than a whore. Yes it’s her life and ultimately its up to her what she does when she leaves this home, but for now, I will not be letting her have any toys that reinforce an outdated concept about women, how they should act or what they should look like.

People think that toys do not influence our decisions later in life. There are countless stories in the papers, on tv and on the internet about people being inspired as children by their toys and later in life becoming a huge success and fair play to them too. This is the reason why I am careful with what toys I let my children play with. Toys are designed to stimulate and teach the child, to help them prepare to be accepted into society as they get older. To make a brighter and better society, we need to think about how our children are brought up and with with influences in their life.

If you think that I am wrong and that these toys that I have mentioned do not in any way promote what I have suggested, then please enlighten me in the comments  below.

Give me a straight answer, please!

As you may know, if you are a regular reader of my blog, I recently spoke to my doctor and set up a Do Not Resuscitate order.

At the time, I was advised to get a medical bracelet or necklace that would inform an ambulance crew member of my wishes. Unfortunately I was never told what to write on it, as my doctor didn’t know how to word it, so he told me to look it up on a website called medicalert.org, but I am unable to find any information what so ever.

I have phoned up NHS Direct hoping that they could give me the information I was seeking but was turned away because giving me “incomplete or wrong information” could cause them legal issues.

The internet is usually an invaluable source of information, but I keep turning up empty because the majority of the information I found was written for Americans and may not be correct in this country. So that’s a dead end.

I am currently waiting on a call back from the NHS PALS which seems promising, but I won’t be getting my hopes up. If they cannot help me, I will venture down to the local ambulance station and speak to an EMT.

If all else fails, I will simply get D.N.R. engraved in large letters on my bracelet, I just hope that the EMTs who treat me will recognise this and respect my wishes.

Have you set up a DNR order for youself? Do you have a medical bracelet with your DNR wishes engraved, if so what do you have engraved?

Christmas 2011

The day actually started off all right. Kate and myself got up at 6am, got ready then woke the kids up. We presented them with their stockings, the majority of it being chocolate and a few small toys and loads of glow sticks. For some reason both kids love them.

We started to get the kids ready and before we knew it, we were bring asked, “can we open our presents yet?!” Being me, I was going to make them wait until after breakfast, so were all proper awake and in the mood for the rest of the day of arguing, shouting and the general “dad, she took my toy, tell her” crap. Instead I thought, fuck it; “They can open one present now before breakfast”.

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Why it should be this way

I have long believed that when you die, you die, it should be for good and that no one should interfere and make life “saving” judgement calls that I do not want made. I have recently approached my doctor and enquired about a DNACPR (Do Not Attempt Cardiopulmonary Resuscitation).

Below I will explain my reasons why I think this is the right action to be taken, despite what my family thinks.

For me
If anything were to happen to me where I would die, could be resuscitated and then be left with a degraded lifestyle, this would make me severely depressed and would most likely cause me to have a break down from which I don’t think I would recover.

For my family
If I were to be involved in something that would leave me in a situation where I was being kept alive artificially, I don’t want to put the burden of leaving the decision whether to “pull the plug” or not to a family member. This could cause them more pain and possibly guilt. I don’t want this, and it is a cruel thing to make anyone do who cares about you!

Spirituality
I am a long time atheist, but obviously the “after life” is unknown, and I believe once you die, that’s it, there is no more, nothing, you “pop out of existence”. It’s a scary thought, I don’t want to die, “partially experience it” and then be brought back to life, nothingness scares me. If it is to happen that way, I would prefer it were to happen just the once thank-you!

I have spoken to my family about the DNACPR and they think I’m making the wrong decision. I have tried to make them see it from my point of view and respect it, but they can’t. My hope in writing this, is it will help them understand a bit more and hopefully once they have accepted the fact that I want this, they will support my decision.

General Medical Council – End of Life Information (PDF) Page 60 Paragraph 128 onwards.

Have you made this decision? Have you ever thought about making this decision? What are your thoughts on someone making this decision?

Halloween 2011

We got invited to Kate’s sisters house for a Halloween party, but was originally unable to come because we were relying on public transport to get us back home, after 7pm it becomes hourly!

We decided that the buses going hourly wasn’t going to keep us from having fun, so when Kate finished work, I met up with her and we headed over to Kacy’s house for a night of fun!

We dressed Ryan up as a zombie for the party, he wasn't too sure about it at first, but the sword with dripping blood and reassurance made all the difference!

A huge skull hanging from the garden canopy. It looks pretty cool!

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Tumblr

I have finally got around to setting up my Tumblr account! I have also decided on a use for it. As I post a lot of photos of my family, and what I get up to, it will be explicitly used to collate all of the photos into one easy place for friends and family to view them all with out wading through the mountings of posts on my blog.

I’m guessing that the majority of the photos on there will be fro my phone as it’s a nice and convenient place to upload them from and it’s the only camera that I have on me at all times, so it’s nice and easy to pull it out and quickly grab a snap!

You can visit my Tumblr by going to http://tumblr.millerswebsite.co.uk/