Recently Katie and myself have been asked several questions in relation to sex by my 4 year old boy. We have been at a cross roads whether to tell him or not and how much to tell him.
I believe that if a person has questions or misconceptions about a certain subject, then they should be allowed, they have the right to have access to uncensored information to help them understand the subject that they have queries about.
This belief has made me question what others are telling me. Yesterday I asked for information from others to get a better perspective of what they have done in relation to their own children. I have stated what I have wanted to do and have been shot down and basically called irresponsible for wanting to tell my child the full undisclosed truth.
I have given Katie access to this blog post to add her own opinion and she adds the following;
I think that telling him the truth is fine but at the age of 4 and the situation of him in the same room as his 2 year old sister I would prefer not to go into detail about sex too much. He is at the age of doing and saying the things he sees and hears and I would not want him to think that it’s OK to do anything of that sort right now.
I completely understand where Katie is coming from, but I believe that Ryan is aware of his actions and should be responsible enough to understand and to not act upon anything that we tell him until he is older.
Today we live in a society where sex is everywhere and is promoted highly on such media platforms as magazines, posters, television programmes and adverts, and surprisingly even on children TV channels. There is literally no escape from sex in the real world. This is the main reason why I believe that the next generation of children should be informed and have as much knowledge as possible to make informed decisions later in their life.
Over the past 10 years new cases of STIs and pregnancies have increased exponentially, this I believe to be due to the lack of information available to the youth of today. A programme on Channel 4 in the U.K. called The Sex Education Show has tried to help everyone understand just exactly what sex is about and answer as many questions about the subject as possible and help promote the practice of safe sex. They like me, believe that the knowledge of the subject should be unrestricted to the people who need and require the information to help them in life.
I suppose after everything considered, my real dilemma would be not what I tell him, but how much information should I give him about the subject? Should I literally stick to the question which was asked, or should I continue and tell him everything I know about the subject?