The Question

Recently Katie and myself have been asked several questions in relation to sex by my 4 year old boy. We have been at a cross roads whether to tell him or not and how much to tell him.

I believe that if a person has questions or misconceptions about a certain subject, then they should be allowed, they have the right to have access to uncensored information to help them understand the subject that they have queries about.

This belief has made me question what others are telling me. Yesterday I asked for information from others to get a better perspective of what they have done in relation to their own children. I have stated what I have wanted to do and have been shot down and basically called irresponsible for wanting to tell my child the full undisclosed truth.

I have given Katie access to this blog post to add her own opinion and she adds the following;

I think that telling him the truth is fine but at the age of 4 and the situation of him in the same room as his 2 year old sister I would prefer not to go into detail about sex too much. He is at the age of doing and saying the things he sees and hears and I would not want him to think that it’s OK to do anything of that sort right now.

I completely understand where Katie is coming from, but I believe that Ryan is aware of his actions and should be responsible enough to understand and to not act upon anything that we tell him until he is older.

Today we live in a society where sex is everywhere and is promoted highly on such media platforms as magazines, posters, television programmes and adverts, and surprisingly even on children TV channels. There is literally no escape from sex in the real world. This is the main reason why I believe that the next generation of children should be informed and have as much knowledge as possible to make informed decisions later in their life.

Over the past 10 years new cases of STIs and pregnancies have increased exponentially, this I believe to be due to the lack of information available to the youth of today. A programme on Channel 4 in the U.K. called The Sex Education Show has tried to help everyone understand just exactly what sex is about and answer as many questions about the subject as possible and help promote the practice of safe sex. They like me, believe that the knowledge of the subject should be unrestricted to the people who need and require the information to help them in life.

I suppose after everything considered, my real dilemma would be not what I tell him, but how much information should I give him about the subject? Should I literally stick to the question which was asked, or should I continue and tell him everything I know about the subject?

HTC Desire O2 Pay As You Go Settings

I have had some trouble with my phone recently. It hasn’t wanted to send multimedia messages ( MMS messages ). It turns out that O2 don’t support my phone at all and I shouldn’t have bought it in the first place!

I have been phoning O2 and scouring the Internet intensely for settings that would work. I came across some settings on the O2 forums, but their Internet settings didn’t work but their MMS settings worked like a charm!

I have therefor decided to put the settings I currently use on here in a nice and easy fashion for others to be able to find and use for their HTC Desire phones who are on the O2 pay as you go network!

Follow the instructions below to be able to insert these settings into your phone. If you know how to then you can skip this part!

  • Press ‘Menu’.
  • Tap ‘Settings’.
  • Tap ‘Wireless & Networks’.
  • Tap ‘Mobile networks’.
  • Tap ‘Access Point Names’.
  • Press ‘Menu’.
  • Tap ‘Add APN’

O2 pay as you go MMS settings

  • Name : O2 MMS
  • APN : wap.o2.co.uk
  • Proxy : http://wap.o2.co.uk
  • Port : 9201
  • Username : o2wap
  • Password : password
  • Server : http://mmsc.mms.o2.co.uk:8002
  • MMSC : http://mmsc.mms.o2.co.uk:8002
  • MMS Proxy : 193.113.200.195
  • MMS Port : 8080
  • MMS Protocol : WAP 2.0
  • MCC : 234
  • MNC : 10
  • Authentication Type : <Not Set>
  • APN Type : mms
  • Press ‘Menu’
  • Tap ‘Save’

O2 pay as you go Wap Settings

  • Name : O2 Pay and Go
  • APN : payandgo.o2.co.uk
  • Proxy : 193.113.200.195
  • Port : 8080
  • Username : payandgo
  • Password : password
  • Server : <Not Set>
  • MMSC : http://mmsc.mms.o2.co.uk
  • MMS Proxy : 193.113.200.195
  • MMS Port : 8080
  • MMS Protocol : 2.0
  • MCC : 234
  • MNC : 10
  • Authentication Type : <Not Set>
  • APN Type : *
  • Press ‘Menu’
  • Tap ‘Save’

Once finished inputting these settings make sure that there is a green circle next to the O2 Pay and Go setting, as this will need to be used as your primary connection or it will not work!

htc desire settings

These settings work for me and I have tested them out by sending a picture message to Kate, and being connected to the Internet and viewing web pages and getting emails. These settings should also work for similar phones such as the Google Nexus One, but there have been reports that these settings work with older HTC Model phones!

Update!

I have been talking to Terry and she has been able to find settings for her HTC Desire, thats unlocked and not branded like mine. Check out her settings in the comments section, if the ones above do not work for you!

The computer illiterate

When I moved into the house where I currently reside, I had a scan around for wireless networks, there were a few that I picked up. There are the BTOpenZone networks coming from the church across the road and 2 or 3 passworded networks coming from neighbours.

At the time I didn’t think anything of this until I set up my own network here. Because I use 2 routers, one to deliver my Internet, and the other is acting like its own private network inside of that for Kates computer to use.

I have set up the WiFi on both routers so that the Internet can be accessed anywhere in the house with no problems as its entirely made of concrete and there is no plaster board any where, which causes problems for signal strength and quality. I have manually set the WiFi channel that the routers use to 12 and 13, which should eliminate any unwanted interference from the neighbours routers WiFi signals. It turns out that my my neighbour uses a really annoying router, and it likes to constantly rotate the channel its using and it likes to hover around 12 – 13, well it seems any channels that I put my routers on.

My neighbours router has started causing connectivity problems for me, which is highly annoying, so I knocked on their door the other day, and asked, if they use WiFi. It turns out that they don’t. I asked politely if they would mind turning it off as it keeps interfering with my network.

I showed them that my phone and iPod picks up their network, and then I started getting questioned as to whether I could see their emails and their computer files, and that they have recently started getting spam emails from a company asking them about medication, implying that it was my fault some how!

I then proceeded to tell them that I couldn’t access their network with out their password, but they didn’t seem to believe me. I then proceeded to show them how to log on to their router and show them how simple it would be to disable their WiFi and that it would take less than 2 minutes to do so. Instead they have decided not to trust me and ask one of their friends about it, and they have come back saying that its a major problem and they should contact Tiscali and get one of their engineers out to sort the “problem” out.

This “problem” as now its been labeled, has been completely out of proportion and has caused my neighbours to not trust me any more, could have been avoided if they had some form of computer training!

I believe in this modern day that everyone who purchases a computer should be given a free weeks worth of training of how to use a computer and all peripherals they have bought to enable them to have some sort of knowledge of what is going on with their computer / peripherals if some one says something like “would you mind turning off your WiFi if your not using it?”

Instead blame the person who has contacted you and accuse them of stealing your information seems to be the best solution for the computer illiterate!